Conversations with a Girl friend: Relationships and Mindgames

Do you Seriously, SERIOUSLY believe that mind-games assists in keeping your relationship going?

Are the qualities that i look for in a romantic relationship that different from yours?

In a romantic relationship I seek:
fun,
companionship,
great sex,
someone who keeps me in mind when he makes a decision that may involve me in the slightest - because I'm a part of his life that he takes into consideration,
someone for which I'd go out of my way to make their lives easier and better, because he enriches my life by loving me, and teaches me what it feels like to love someone back.
intelligence,
clarity of thought/logic,
ambition/knowing what he wants,
As far as I'm concerned, trust and good communication goes without saying most of the time, but i need to highlight something here - GOOD COMMUNICATION.

What do You look for?

Playing mind games is based on the assumption that the partners do not know what the other could possibly be thinking, and the partners keep each other guessing, which by definition is Bad Communication. Now, this could be fun if it were sex games and whether or not the partners guessed the correct thoughts, the outcome would be pleasurable. However, if guessing wrong could lead to negative and possibly serious consequences, that's just stupid.

Why go LOOKING for problems? Why go ADDING to them? Do you REALLY have nothing else to do with your time?
If the person you're with is so boring that you need to play mind games in order to create some semblance of mystery and stay interested in each other, you've Certainly found the wrong person, and should really be concentrating on finding someone who you'd want to spend Actual time talking to, someone who wants to make your life Better, Easier... that someone's life who You would like to ADD to...

Bad communication means that there is a super high probability that you're both on different pages, leading you to make decisions are not mutually beneficial. How does that make your lives better? how does that make your lives easier? Or is this kind of misunderstanding and drama what you're actually looking for in a relationship? Do you actually enjoy complaining to your friends about how your man/woman just does not understand you, does not know to buy flowers, or do your laundry along with his? Because i can tell you this - friends get lank tired of that kind of jabber. Lank, LANK tired.

If you need misunderstandings and that kind of drama so much that you are playing games in order to make them happen, well power to you for making what you want happen. But please don't pull me in to try guess what he's thinking. He probably does not know What to think because you're not telling him anything, and all of this is just a waste of time. yours, his, and most importantly MINE! Maybe you have nothing better to with your time, but i certainly have other things to do with Mine.

Maybe you'd call me a bad friend because i won't listen to this type of your troubles. However, if you were wrongfully accused for a crime i will be there to bail you out for sure. But paying games that aren't fun is a futile effort. And anyone who knows me knows that i do Not believe in those.

Mind games are a no. Be honest. Be simple. Be happy.